This is a placeholder for a SX documentation artifact that would be very useful, and relates to the Sustainability core principle of Social experience design. For now there is only this fediverse post I tooted just now:
The fair story for #SelfHosting is to go beyond the jubilation of only its merits in so many of the “Just Self-host” advice and instruction blogs that are doing the rounds, and also include all the considerations to perhaps not self-host. As it brings a much larger burden than just that initial install. Such that people are even burning out and leave the #FOSS space, having underestimated what it takes.